The 7 principles that Dr. Dryer shares in his book Excuses Begone! are wonderful and truly thought-provoking. In the beginning, he discusses the idea of belief and the power our brain has when it comes to believing in something. He also discusses how our surroundings help us in creating beliefs, which he calls the biology of belief. Here is an excerpt from his book:
“Have you ever wanted to change some facet of your personality, but another part of you insisted that this is impossible because your genetic programming is responsible for how you think, feel, and behave? … This part means to be helpful-but while it probably wants to protect you from the disappointments of failure, it keeps you stuck in an excuse-driven life. Using the excuse of genetic programming not to do anything about the personal characteristic that you dislike is popular and clearly acceptable to today’s culture”.
Dr. Dryer wrote this book in 2009. Here we are 10 years later, and this couldn’t be truer. I get stuck on this and find myself justifying my actions instead of changing my thoughts and feelings that are driving me to believe this or that, to begin with. The more I have explored the working of our brains the more I realize that the design of the brain is so amazing. How else could humans have survived for so long unless we made sure to protect, forge, and be so very cautious? If we were just full of happiness and peace we would have died a long time ago, in a cold cave, just being happy and peaceful. Now with so many advances at our fingertips and society providing us with “ease,” we have to now take the time to step back, examine our thoughts, and redirect ourselves. It seems like now would be a good time to learn to meditate in the cave before forging outside.
Humans are amazing! I have so much to learn and grow to create more thoughts that serve me and help me love the person I am. One of Dr. Dryer’s sayings that I keep close when I get stuck in my thoughts and ways is “When you have the choice between being right or being kind, just choose kind.”
So be kind to yourself and enjoy the person you are now, and be hopeful for the person you are becoming.